Have you tried to overcome porn and masturbation for a long time without any success? I did too. Finally, I learned that I was never going to overcome the addiction without changing my fighting approach.
Stepping on the brake pedal in your car and expecting it to accelerate is foolishness. No matter how hard you step on it, the car will never accelerate.
That is how bad it is to do anything ignorantly. Beating porn and masturbation requires skill and perfect execution. Going at it blindly will never get you any result.
One of the best ways to learn is by knowing the mistakes you have been making. I made them too so I know them pretty well.
I have also seen some of my friends who are battling porn addiction making the same mistakes. But today, you are lucky. It won’t be business as usual after you learn about these mistakes.
Thinking Porn is the Problem
One of the biggest mistakes that people make when battling against porn is the idea of assuming porn addiction is always the problem.
Naturally, problems are not very difficult to solve. But administering the wrong medication will never get any disease treated.
Porn addiction is no different. In some cases, porn is not usually the problem. It might be a solution. This is what I mean when I say porn might be the solution…
There might be another problem which your mind believes that watching porn can heal it. Masturbation may be a ‘solution’ to failed attempts to get into a romantic relationship.
Your mind wants to enjoy sex but you can’t find a partner. Then you end up with masturbation which you believe will give you the same thrill as sex even when you don’t have a partner.
In such a case, masturbation can never go away until you solve the root cause. And that may mean learning how to communicate well and meeting other requirements of a healthy relationship.
For some, porn addiction is a way of escaping from depression. Maybe you occasionally feel so low almost falling into depression. Everything you try to do seems blunt.
You then end up watching porn and masturbating as a way to cheer yourself up. Even though you know it doesn’t last long but it is the only way you know how to get some relief.
For such kind of a person, trying to resist porn is pointless. The moment they start sliding into depression, they will automatically find pornographic material to cheer themselves.
That is where the cycles of porn addiction come from. One day you feel you are completely free but a few days later, the urges are too strong to resist.
Therefore, if you have tried all manner of ways to beat porn addiction without success, check if there is a deeper problem than porn.
The underlying problems are usually psychological. That is why I recommend you enlist the help of a therapist to help you uncover the hidden problems. Therapists have a way of noticing psychological problems that the average person can’t see.
I once went to see a therapist and within the first two minutes, I had already begun feeling relieved from the mental stress I as experiencing.
I don’t know what therapists do but I know they have magic pills that bring healing.
Using External Solutions
I’m sure you have searched the internet to find remedies to your porn problem and you were told something in the lines of take a cold shower, stay away from your computer at night etc
Well, I don’t want to discourage you but I will frankly tell you that I took cold showers and masturbated immediately after showering.
Some say you can get an app that blocks adult content. That is good advice but then what will you do when you go to the mall and meet girls in tight pants?
In my eBook on how I struggled with porn, I narrate a funny incident where I had to go back home and masturbate after seeing some ladies on the street. The ladies were not dressed provocatively as such but I couldn’t take my eyes off their breasts and well, you know what other part of ladies guys look at.
No porn restricting app could stop me from looking lustfully at those girls on the street. That is why relying on a mere app to beat porn addiction is a pipe dream.
Porn is such a strange addiction to an extent that husbands will leave their wives in bed to go and watch porn. If the thrill of sex is the need, why would a man leave his girl in bed to go and watch porn?
That means that even having a partner won’t end your addiction to porn. Some people believe that getting a more beautiful girl to sleep with will cure the urges. Never!
Porn addiction is an internal problem and no external solution can cure it. Therefore, stop struggling to take cold showers, finding new partners and downloading many apps because they will only mask the addiction.
Looking for a Magic Button
Here is sad news for you; there is no magic button to end porn. If there was one, I wouldn’t have spent the many years I spent battling porn.
Just like many problems in life, porn has to be solved systematically. It won’t go away overnight. Once you learn that beating porn is a process, you will be in a better position to win the battle.
Spending your time looking for tablets that you will swallow to end the urges to watch porn is pointless. There is a lot that is involved in beating porn addiction.
It might cost a lot of money and hours of reading and consulting but that is the truth. The earlier you prepare your mind for the long haul, the greater the chance you stand to win the battle.
Conclusion
Don’t give up the fight to overcome porn addiction. It does feel overwhelming at times but if you keep at it you will win. I did it and you can too.
You can refer to my other article How to Stop Porn Addiction after Failing Miserably for a way out of this maze. Be gentle on yourself.
It is not entirely your fault that you are addicted to porn. After all, you are reading this article because you want to be a better person.
You are not defined by porn. You are a normal person. One day you will look back at the struggle you are in right now and smile because by then you will have overcome the addiction.
All the best!