No, it won’t! And I have a good reason to tell you as well as a solution to your problem. I have been in your shoe and I also had a similar question.
The good news is that the solution is not hard especially if you have someone guiding you through it. You will only struggle if you choose to rebel against the instructions given to you.
But before I get into the instructions, let me make a few things clear…
Porn Addiction and Marriage Won’t Work.
If you were a good math student in school, I will tell you porn and marriage are inversely proportional. As one increases, the other decreases and there is nothing you can do about it.
Forget any stupid lies you have heard around the web. Porn will ruin your relationship and bring it to nothing.
I know there are ‘honorable’ people who claim that once you get married, porn addiction won’t be a problem. I once listened to them.
I was still addicted to porn at that time. I ended up following their advice and as you guessed it, things went horribly wrong.
I got a girlfriend and did some crazy stuff with her hoping that my addiction to masturbation would end but nothing changed. You can read the details of the story in my eBook.
I lived through it and I have come to warn you beforehand. Many at times, porn addicts assume that once they find a partner whom they can sleep with the desire to watch porn will vanish.
Let me surprise you, I read a story of a wife whose husband was addicted to porn. At first, she didn’t know. Her husband was behaving the way she expected a husband to behave.
But then one day they visited her parents. While at her parents’ home, her husband used her parents’ computer. After their visit, her parents called her to tell her that they found something weird on their computer browsing history.
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When they told her about the dirty searches they found, she denied that her husband would do such things. She believed she was giving him enough time in bed so he wouldn’t want to go on the internet to find satisfaction.
That evening, when her husband came back from work, she casually asked him if he watches porn. He brushed off the question.
Then she confronted him with what her parents had told her about the dirty search history. Her husband mumbled a few things and kept quiet.
She then asked for permission to check his computer. He willingly agreed. As she went through his computer, she began seeing signs pointing towards the possibility of her husband being a porn addict.
Eventually, she found more than enough evidence that her husband watches porn. Slowly, she began connecting the dots.
Sometimes she would wake up at night and not see her husband in bed. When she would go to check where he was, he would be sitting at his computer and his excuse was that he was doing research.
As she dug deeper into her husband’s secret addiction, she found that he had profiles on ‘meet beautiful girls’ websites. He had actually received several provocative emails.
She then began feeling hated by husband. It felt terrible for her to know that her husband was comparing her to the girls he was talking to on the internet.
One day, she got to read an email from her husband had sent to one of the girls on the internet. Her husband was describing how he hates his wife and how she is ‘tasteless’ in bed.
She was so broken and decided to part ways with the husband. When she was narrating her story, she was in the process of divorcing him.
Now tell me, did the urge to watch porn end after this man slept with his wife?
That innocent lady thought that just because she was giving her husband enough time in bed, he couldn’t go to watch porn.
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She was wrong. That is why I began by saying porn and marriage won’t work together.
To you who thinks that your desire to masturbate will end once you start sleeping with someone, don’t be fooled. You’ve heard a good confession from a real wife who lived to prove your theory wrong.
Your desire to masturbate and watch porn is separate from your desire to sleep with someone but they choke each other.
If you don’t eliminate your desire to masturbate before marriage, your marriage will have a hard time getting rooted that is if at all you will manage to get married in the first place.
What to do?
Now that you know porn addiction has to be dealt with before marriage, here is what you need to do. First, you need to do a background check of your life.
Find out the reason why you watch porn. It is only after you have found the reason why you watch porn that you can begin tackling it.
Secondly, get someone to help you in your battle against porn addiction. I recommend you get a professional therapist specialized in dealing with addictions.
That way, you won’t have to struggle in overcoming the addiction.
Thirdly, be intentional about overcoming porn addiction. At the end of the day, you will only beat the addiction once your desire to overcome it is strong enough.
Overcoming the addiction is not impossible. I have done it, others have done it and you can do it too. By virtue that you are reading this article already shows your desire to overcome it.
You are on the right path. Keep pushing. All the best!