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Why you need a Therapist to help you Beat Porn Addiction

I was addicted to watching pornography for over 10 years. I struggled to get rid of it through many ways. In the end, I only managed to beat my addiction to porn when I got a good understanding of what porn actually was.

I never used the services of a therapist but if I was still addicted today, I would run to a therapist. This is because the knowledge that eventually set me free is one that therapists have.

What I did in my case is I spent several years unknowingly learning to be a therapist. When I was good enough in therapy, I did it on myself and got free from the addiction to pornography and masturbation.

However, for you, I don’t want you to use the long route that I used. I want you to find a therapist to help you cut down on the amount of work you need to do to get rid of porn addiction.

In this article, I will tell you why it is important that you hire a therapist to help you in your fight against porn addiction.

The Root cause of Porn Addiction is Psychological

People who are addicted to watching adult content are not random victims. There is a specific criterion that porn uses to choose its victims.

You’ll be surprised to see many people who have never watched porn yet they have access to the internet. I was surprised at how I no longer desired porn after I successfully overcame it.

It felt odd at first but now I am used to it. I normally get angry when I see any suggestive image. The anger is genuine. I never had it when I was still an addict.

The first reason why you need a therapist in fighting against porn addiction is because porn is a habit. And habits are created and destroyed in the mind.

When you are addicted to porn, your mind interprets it as something good to your system. Think of it like taking a cold drink on a hot summer day when you are super thirsty.

Of course when you are thirsty on a hot day your mind will crave a cold drink. Likewise, your mind assigns porn to certain conditions.

To some, it is their lullaby while to others it is their anti-depressant. That means that whenever it is time to go to bed, your mind activates the desire for porn.

And because your body is merely an extension of your mind, there is no way you will stop the urges to watch porn. You can’t fight against your own mind since you need that very mind to fight.

For most people and also what was my case, I would use porn as a stimulant. Anytime I would get a disappointment, I would watch porn to cheer up.

And because life has so many things that can go wrong, it meant that I had so many things that could bring the urges to watch porn.

Now, my first step was to assemble all the triggers of the urges of porn and find their sources. To my surprise, all the triggers were related to the emotional abuse I went through as a child.

I didn’t even know that I was a victim of abuse and that’s why I am recommending you to get a therapist. You may be a victim of abuse and you are not even aware of it.

The pain resulting from that abuse was the cause of frequent feelings of emptiness. And my mind would mask the frequent feelings of emptiness with watching porn.

So, as long as I still had the childhood pain, there was no way I was going to resist watching porn and masturbating. I later on figured out how to heal from the childhood pain.

Had I consulted a therapist, my work would have been easier. I wouldn’t have to read so much psychology.

Therefore, chances are that your addiction to porn and masturbation is deeper than you think. And unless you are a psychologist, it will be hard to unravel the root cause.

That is the first reason why you need a therapist.

No Room for Error for Pornography Addicts

Dealing with your addiction to pornography is as serious as any health condition you may think of. This is because if you don’t treat your addiction to pornography, your entire life will crumble.

I’m sure you have already seen several side effects of your addiction to pornography. Things like feeling lonely, becoming very aggressive and feeling tired most of the time.

If porn is not kicked out of your life soon, the side effects will worsen. They will start affecting your productivity at work and in your business, they will choke your marriage and relationships and as you sink deeper, your own life will become worthless.

The frustration of having so many things in your life not working will send you into depression and eventually you may find yourself contemplating suicide.

Addiction to pornography is such a serious thing. Not only are you expected to end the addiction, but you are also expected to end it early enough.

Some of the effects may have a long lasting impact. For example, if your children find you watching porn, even if you eventually quit the addiction, you will still struggle with shame.

If you quit early enough, you will have less effects to deal with. Your body needs time to recover from the torture of porn.

You won’t suddenly become productive after quitting porn. Your mind will need time to grow the productivity mindset.

And because pornography addiction has such serious effects, it makes sense to hire a professional counselor to help you through the journey.

When you have a professional guide, she will help you avoid making serious mistakes that have a long lasting impact while helping you out of the addiction at the same time.

Accountability

Being a porn addict is like being caught up in a tornado; no matter how strong you are, you need help. No man is an island.

In my own experience with porn addiction, I only began to see improvement when I decided to open up about my struggle.

All the attempts I made to stop my addiction secretly failed. It wasn’t an issue of not knowing what to do but rather gathering the strength to actually do it.

I don’t know how nature works but then anyone who tries to get ahead on his own will always run out of strength.

There is a common saying that states ‘If you want to go fast, go alone but if you want to go far, go with a team.’

Quitting porn addiction is no different. You must get a team for you to go far. I wrote an article that guides on how to open up when you are a porn addict.

Of course it is hard to open up about your secret struggles but it is essential if you want to be free. When you hire a therapist, first, you won’t have to fear opening up since therapists are used to such cases.

Secondly, you won’t have to fear about your friends and colleagues learning about your secret struggle. Therapists are good at keeping secrets, which is critical for helping people with secret addictions.

Walking with a therapist will give a great sense of accountability. A therapist is not like your best friend whom you can easily dismiss and go ahead with your usual dirty habit.

Therapists are trained to handle resistance that your mind presents. You will be in a better position to overcome porn addiction when you have a professional as your guide.

Think of it this way, when you visit a game reserve in a foreign country, you will find locals who know the game reserve but then you will also find game wardens that are trained to guide tourists in the game reserve.

While a local may know where lions are in the game reserve, he won’t be of help when the lions attack. On the other hand, game wardens not only know where the lions are but they are able to whisk you from danger in case the lions attack.

Therapists are like the game wardens; they are trained to do the job. They make way better accountability partners than your casual friends.

Self-Love

There are definitely drawbacks to hiring a therapist to help you with overcoming masturbation and porn addiction. The most obvious is the cost.

But then the therapy route is just the safest for most addicts. If you love yourself, getting a therapist to help you get rid of porn addiction is just the best gift you can get yourself.

You won’t have to strain figuring out the steps to take in order to break free from your addiction. Imagine being a blind man and you want to cross a road.

Do you guess your way across the road or do you ask for someone with good sight to help you across it? Getting a therapist may cost you much but then you will get a gentle treatment that eventually gets you the freedom you so much crave.

Where to find a Porn Addiction Therapist

There you have some quick reasons I could think of why you need a therapist to help you quit porn addiction. I believe you will find great help and finally put pornography behind you.

If you want know how to pick a good therapist, read my guide on how to hire the right therapist to help you beat porn addiction. If you want to hire a therapist right away, use the button at the end of this article.

With that said, I wish you all the best in your battle against pornography and masturbation addiction. You can get my eBook which talks about my journey in overcoming porn addiction to motivate yourself.

Good luck!