Should you open up about your Addiction to Porn and Masturbation?

This is a question that can only be asked on the internet. Its nature demands that the person asking must remain anonymous.

Whatever the case, I am here to help you Mr. Anonymous. Porn addiction is often a secret addiction.

While a drunkard will drink and go around the neighborhood shouting, a porn addict will watch his adult films in the confines of his room in the middle of the night and walk out the following morning as if nothing happened.

It is hard to catch a porn addict in the act just as it is hard to catch a housefly. Porn addicts are often the most innocent people unimaginable.

I was a porn addict yet I was the Christian union leader. Who in his wildest mind would imagine that a spiritual leader can be a porn addict?

I would occasionally advise people not to watch adult films yet I was watching them. Others would come to confess to me their struggles yet I had the same struggles.

What I am trying to pass across here is that you may be a respected person in your circle. Maybe you are a loving husband with several children and a beautiful wife.

It is not uncommon for husbands to hide their addiction to masturbation from their wives. I once read a story of a wife who discovered his husband was addicted to porn after her parents found his browsing history on their computer.

That story is in this article.

Because of the honor you have, the thought of coming clean about your secret struggle may not sound appealing. It never appealed to me either but then, injections are never appealing to patients either.

If you go for an injection and the doctor asks you to remove your trouser, will you refuse?

The truth of the matter is that you have an addiction and you have no idea how many other people you know have the same addiction.

As I said earlier, porn addicts are as good as the secret service when it comes to keeping secrets.

Therefore, as a measure to set yourself free, open up about your struggle. However, to make matters a little bearable for you, I’ll tell you how to go about it.

Go Far From Home

The closest people to you will most likely crucify you if they learn of your addiction. Some may even use it against you.

If you tell your co-worker about it, chances are that it will spread throughout the office and you may be forced to quit your nice job.

Though there are exceptions, I will strongly recommend you shut your mouth about your secret struggles while at work.

What about your spouse? This is dependent on how strong your relationship is. If you suspect that she may not take the news of your addiction well, don’t bother telling her.

But if she asks you about it, tell her the truth. Lying about it will only worsen the problem.

If you are comfortable in the fellowship that you attend, you can organize for a session with your pastor. But be very careful. Only go to him if you have confidence in him.

Don’t take any risks. Your existing relationships are too expensive to lose.

The best person for you to open up to is a stranger. Yes, just as you are comfortably listening to me talking to you, that is how comfortable you should be in the presence of the person you open up to.

Where can you find such a stranger? Exactly where you found me; on the internet. You can hire a private therapist on this website and open up to him about your issues.

The good thing with hiring a therapist is that they already understand how addictions work and don’t have time to judge you. Gynecologists don’t get surprised when ladies undress for them because to them there is no shame in it.

Also, the therapist doesn’t know much about you and he may never get a chance to talk to your friends. That should give you confidence to pour out all your dirty secrets and get help.

Benefits of opening up

When you open up about your secret struggles, the burden on your shoulders reduces. Having someone you can contact when your secret life is deteriorating will greatly boost your morale to push against the addiction.

In my own battle against porn addiction which I have shared in my eBook, I first opened up to the guidance and counseling mistress back in high school.

The response I got from her wasn’t the one I expected. I ended up not sharing with anyone else until later on. Eventually, opening up played an important role in helping me beat the addiction.

Another big advantage of opening up is that is takes away condemnation. I normally put it this way; no one is condemned for having an addiction but only for hiding it.

By hiding an addiction, it means you treasure it and are not willing to let it out. But when you share about your struggles, it shows your willingness to get rid of the addiction.

In fact, you can tell if you are ready to quit your addiction by how easy it is for you to open up about it. Right now, my story is on the internet for everyone to see because I am no longer in the addiction.

I have total freedom. But in my early days, I didn’t want even a cat to see me. I feared that someone might have sent it to spy on me.

Conclusion

As unpleasant as it may seem, opening up is the right thing to do if you want to get rid of your addiction to porn. Porn will keep thriving as long as you hide it.

When opening up, be careful whom you open up to. A little error could land you in deep trouble. Once you open up, your recovery from the addiction will be quick.

There is great hope for you. Let your dignity be offended for a short while because it shall surely be restored.

All the best!