The season of singleness is tough to live through. It takes courage to conquer it.
If you search around, you will find all manner of opinions about the season of being single. Some say it is a blessing, others say you must find your way out of it.
What exactly is the season of singleness?
The season of being single is the time a young Christian has a desire for marriage but is yet to find a suitable partner. It is during the season of being single that love is awakened. The awakening love brings confusion for most Christian singles.
Despite the season of singleness being confusing for many Christians, it is an important season to go through.
But as you go through it, you must be aware of three things:
The Length of the Season of Singleness
The season of singleness is as long as you want it to be. God designed the singleness season to depend on our will. That way, no one would blame God if the season of singleness takes longer than she expected.
The moment you get the desire to have a husband, you are already running late in the season of being single. Right from the beginning of the season of singleness, God will test you in different aspects.
The purpose of the testing is to mold you into a godly wife. If you yield yourself to God’s training during the season of being single, you will be ready to get married by the end of the season.
Failing the training that God gives while you are single is what makes many Christian women stay single for long.
God is just. He will only let you have a husband once you have successfully completed the tests He set for you.
If you feel the season of being single has prolonged, know that you are yet to complete some tests that God gave you. I have outlined the steps you need to go through in order to get a husband from God in this eBook.
Go through them and see if you have missed any.
As a single Christian woman who desires marriage, strive to attain the mark of being a godly wife. It is only when you attain the mark of a godly wife that God will give you a godly man.
Some single Christian ladies assume they have attained the mark of being a godly wife and relax. The truth is that only God knows when you have attained the mark of a godly wife.
Do not be your own judge. Let God be the judge. Keep pushing to attain the mark of a godly woman.
Season of Singleness: Loneliness
As I mentioned before, when you start feeling lonely as a single Christian woman, it is because your time in the season of being single has expired.
According to God’s design, by the end of the season of singleness, you need to have attained the mark of a godly wife. At that moment, you are to have a man from God.
If you perfectly walk in the timing of God, you won’t feel lonely in the season of singleness.
But if you have already wasted time in the season of singleness and are now feeling lonely, don’t worry. You still have room to get a husband from God.
The only challenge is that you will have to contend with feelings of loneliness. The loneliness feelings will prompt you to rush but you have to curb them.
The best way to manage your feelings of loneliness is to accept that you have delayed fulfilling the requirements God had for you during your season of singleness.
Once you accept the reality of the matter, even when you feel lonely, you will be at peace.
Apart from acknowledging the feelings of loneliness, it is important to constantly be working to fulfill the conditions God set for you.
It is only when you fulfill the conditions God set for you that you will get a husband and bring to an end the feelings of loneliness.
God cares about your loneliness but He can only give you a husband when you are fit to become a wife.
Season of Singleness: Purpose
Why would a loving God create a terrible season of being single? Well, singleness is important in two ways:
First, it helps you as a single woman desire marriage. Marriage is God’s design to help His children have a generation of their own.
If singleness was welcoming, we would be comfortable in it and we would never work hard to get married.
To push us to get into marriage, God made the season of singleness lonely. Remember God is pushing us into marriage because He loves us.
God knows that it is hard for us to find fulfillment in life if we don’t have children of our own.
Secondly, the season of being single reminds us of the long awaited second coming of Christ. The church is currently in the season of singleness as it awaits its bridegroom.
God, in an attempt to help us perceive the longing for Christ’s second coming, introduced the season of being single for everyone.
God expects the longing you have for the return of Christ to be as strong as the longing you have to get a husband.
The effort you put in to get a husband should be the same effort you put in to prepare yourself for Christ’s return.
Just as failing to prepare for marriage during the season of singleness brings loneliness, failing to prepare for the return of Christ brings suffering.
The season of singleness is unavoidable. As a single Christian woman, strive to fulfill the conditions God expects you to fulfill during your season of singleness. That is how you are to graduate from the season of singleness.
God has a husband waiting for you after you pass the tests of singleness. The quicker you align yourself with God’s training, the quicker you will come out of the season of singleness.
Yield yourself to the training of God and get a husband.
All the best!